The other day, I was hiking in North Carolina with Justin Lukasavige of Coach Radio. Check out his site – there’s some really helpful and interesting content there. He’s become a friend through our conversations about building a business over the last year, and he’s taken on a mentor’s attitude in his life and business. In fact, he was nice enough to let me in on his weekly “Trail Talk” segment. If you want to see why I stay behind the camera, here’s the link:
Rewind two or three years, and we probably wouldn’t have had a conversation, much less struck up a friendship. I had a go-it-alone mentality. I thought I was smart enough to figure life out on my own. I didn’t want to annoy people with my problems or bore them with was going on in my life. More importantly, I didn’t want to face the possibility of rejection.
Dan Miller, who authored No More Mondays and 48 Days to the Work You Love, often asserts, “One of the key characteristics of highly successful people is that they spend time with those who are already performing at the level they are shooting for.” By finding the right mentors, you set yourself up to learn more in a few conversations then you could possibly receive from a 4-year degree. More importantly, the encouragement builds a newfound self-confidence.
Aside from a mentoring standpoint, it’s also beneficial to find people on similar life journeys. If you read my recent blog about my wife’s ongoing illness, then you have a pretty good idea of some of the struggles that have occurred in our lives the last four years. It became apparent that I had neglected to build other relationships during our dating years and early in our marriage. In fact, I didn’t realize I had a need for the friendship of men until I felt alone in those moments of struggle.
Suffice it to say, life doesn’t work well when we try to do it alone. Success in all areas often comes back to relationships.